GREAT friends are priceless – they can lift your spirits, make you laugh, and they are there for you when you need someone to talk to. Every one needs to have at least one great friend they can trust and rely on.
Friends make you feel comfortable with yourself, so you don’t need to act like something you’re not. Your friends know your shortcomings and love you anyway. You are perhaps the “best version” of yourself when you’re with your friend.
So what does a healthy friendship look like and how do you maintain a friendship so that it lasts a lifetime?
1. Remember the Golden Rule Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Do not treat them above or below you, treat them like an equal.
2. Realise that nobody’s perfect Everybody has quirks and flaws, and accepting each other’s flaws is key to a good friendship. Do not judge your friend.
3. Respect each other’s opinions Your friends are allowed to have a different opinion to you, which is what makes us all individuals.
4. Realise that even the best of friends can’t be together 24/7 Develop other interests and don’t be jealous when your friend has other hobbies or other friends.
5. Communication is really important Your friend can’t read your mind. If something is affecting your friendship, tell them.
6. Be a good listener when she needs to talk
7. Be trustworthy If a friend tells you a secret, make sure to keep it. Never tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don’t even leak it out to someone you think you can trust. A secret is a secret.
8. Keep your word If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Follow through with it. You know what they say, actions speak louder than words.
9. Don’t talk behind your friend’s back Gossip is toxic and can ruin even the best of friendships.
10. Argue with eachother Best friends will have disagreements and even argue from time to time. This is not the end of the world, arguing in a healthy way can actually makes friendships stronger as you express what you both need to say and it is an opportunity to learn more about the other person.
11. Don’t expect your friendship to be perfect Know that you’ll probably go through rough patches. Bear in mind though that sometimes you will have to give your BFF some space so that they can have time alone. Being a best friend means understanding when a little bit of time alone is a good thing.
12. Be your own best friend first Learn how to respect yourself. Decide what boundaries are important to you and respect them. Understand what values are important to you, and stick by them. Seek out others who honor those values.